'She said that Claire was offended by my attention seeking behavior': Mom-to-Be Kicks Friend Out of Baby Shower for Wearing White, Sparks Debate as to Who's in the Wrong

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    r/AmltheAsshole ⚫ 10 hr. ago • Lost-Lobster-1644 AITA for wearing white to a baby shower?
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    I (29f) have been friends "Claire" (28f) since high school. We have a small group of friends that has stayed close since then. Claire is pregnant and had her baby shower yesterday. I wore a white and blue.
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    floral sundress. I didn't think anything of it because, as far as I know, white is only inappropriate for bridal events. When I arrived at the shower, Claire's mood seemed to immediately sour and
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    she was really cold toward me. Later, one of my other friends pulled me aside and asked me to leave. She said that Claire was offended by my "attention seeking behavior" and that it was inappropriate to wear white to Claire's event. I left.
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    I'm super confused. Like I said, I thought the white rule only applied to bridal events. Our friends are refusing to take sides but a couple have told me I should apologize even if I don't think I'm wrong. AITA?
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    Momjamoms • 10h ago Pooperintendant [57] NTA, that's not a thing. Are you sure the color of the dress was the issue? It seems nonsensical.
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    jrm1102 • 10h ago Sultan of Sphincter [960] NTA - you can wear white to a baby shower. You sure it was just about the dress tho?
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    NurseDirty Jersey • 9h ago NTA please wear the same outfit the next time you see her
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    easthighwildcatfan1 • 10h ago NTA. I've never once heard of not wearing white to a baby shower. Depending on the pattern and style, I'm not even sure I would consider a white and blue floral dress an absolute "no no" for a bridal shower. It sounds like she was feeling insecure and something about how you looked made her feel bad about herself. While that fault. ו' it's not your
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    CoverCharacter8179 • • 10h ago Edited 9h ago Aficionado [10] Ok, so I don't consider female dress etiquette to be my area of expertise, but FWIW: I think Claire's reaction is Bat Excrement Insane. There's a huge amount of space in between "don't wear something that looks like a wedding dress to a wedding unless you're the bride" and "don't wear blue and white flowers to a baby shower unless you're the guest of honor."
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    EDIT I forgot to say NTA. If you want to apologize for upsetting her with your reasonable, appropriate actions, that's your call but I don't think it's an obligation. e.g. "I'm sorry you were upset, I never would have upset you on purpose. II
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    BeMandalorTomad • 10h ago Aficionado [13] Um, NO. NTA. White is worn but the BRIDE at her wedding to imply that she is a virgin and therefore. pure. At a baby shower, it's pretty freaking clear that purity is not the topic we are celebrating. We got down, we got dirty and now we're gettin' a baby. Let's say this was a gender reveal and you knew ahead of time that it was a boy and you wore blue to say ha! I already knew! Or
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    pink is a girl. Then you would be TAH. Wearing white to a baby shower is friggen harmless. My guess is that you looked pretty and the Mama to Be feels unattractive. That's sad in the sense that pregnancy should be beautiful. But that sure as isn't your fault. NTA
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    SusanfromMA • 10h ago Enthusiast [9] WTAF?!?! Claire is a super-sized A. Now pregnant people want ALL the attention on them at a baby shower - which is nothing more than a gift-grab GTFOYA So very much NTA. You brought the B a gift and she was mad that you looked pretty? Bet better friends.
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    Fit Faithlessness609 · 8h ago NTA. My opinion as a dude with way too many sisters I've been able to completely change what they thought about this so maybe I can help everyone. Women should not care what anyone else wears ever. Not at a party not at a baby shower not even a wedding if you care that's a you issue and you should get over it. Anyone that disagrees that's also a you issue and you should work on yourself and let go of your inner jealousy. Im gonna get attacked here but im right so wh

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